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Leaders Need To See and Be Seen

Leaders Need To See and Be Seen

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There is a deep human longing to be seen. It is one of the greatest possible gifts to show others that you see them. In the workplace, feeling seen, noticed, and acknowledged by those you admire for who you are and for your efforts is a tremendous motivator. To really see others we need to be interested, curious, and inquiring. We need to take note. We can do so by tracking others’ concerns and achievements, expressing empathy, and letting others know that we have understood what is important to them. On the other hand, many people don't realize that it is also important to make the effort to be seen. Many leaders are already striving hard for business results, measures of success, outputs, and details, and hoping that one day this…
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Three Books For Leaders (Part Two)

Three Books For Leaders (Part Two)

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In June, I recommended three leadership books for summer reading. Here are three more books I have found helpful to my work, to take readers into fall. Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink. Riverhead Books. December 2009. Pink gives real-life examples about what motivates a person. As it turns out, it's not so much carrots and sticks, as the rewards of autonomy, mastery, and purpose. Self-knowledge is extremely important to leadership, and in this book, you'll learn what most drives you forward. Leadership from the Inside Out: Becoming A Leader For Life by Kevin Cashman. Berrett-Koehler Publishers. 2nd revised & updated edition, September 2008. A philosophical book, with research and case studies, that covers the importance to leadership of doing inner work on who you are, your…
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What Is Your Leadership Brand?

What Is Your Leadership Brand?

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Your leadership brand is what people say about you when you’re not in the room. What do you think they would say about you? What would you want them to say? If you’re interested in working on your leadership brand, remember that your brand is not based only on tasks, or on results, but on your behavior on your way to those results. How are you interacting with others? Are you behaving in a way that is consistent with how you’d like to be seen? Behaviors that are consistent create a brand over the long term. If we lose sight of that, our brand diminishes, and it becomes more difficult to get results.
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Managing The Tangle Of Anxiety

Managing The Tangle Of Anxiety

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Have you ever wrapped up a vacation by losing sleep over the work ahead of you? You might have set aside your cares for a few days, but now your mind is spinning with anxiety about your bulging email inbox, an aggravating situation with a co-worker, or an important presentation. Some of our best vacation moments are when we’re living in the now. Our anxiety, on the other hand, is nearly always set in the future—can we handle what’s next? There is a good kind of anxiety that excites and prepares us for something meaningful and challenging. If this is what you feel at the end of vacation, you might feel nervous, but you’re ready to stretch your capacity and tackle what’s ahead. Then there is the unpleasant anxiety that can…
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Are You an Asker or a Teller?

Are You an Asker or a Teller?

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Leaders tend to either "ask" more, or "tell" more. Sometimes they do neither, and keep their opinion to themselves. These differences in personality all have particular strengths, but lean too far in any of these directions, and your problems with connection can occur. One leader leans too strongly to connect, and is experienced as too mushy, with no back bone. Another leader is always telling and taking strong positions, and comes as an arrogant know-it-all. Very quiet leaders may seem either overly pliable, or distant and arrogant. Effective leadership is about balancing these possibilities. People often know where they fall in this description, whether it's that they are very connected and don't express many strong opinions, too distant and extremely opinionated, or some other combination of these traits. Some need to work more on the soft skills of listening, empathy, and story telling; others may need to…
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How To Use Your Inner Compass

How To Use Your Inner Compass

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To make choices we usually need to evaluate the facts, but we must also respond to gut feelings that give us information. Together, these can make up our inner compass. But most of us at one time or another dismiss the gut feelings. We have all sorts of reasons for doing so. We’re scared, or we don’t really want to do the work required of us. (This happens a lot to storybook heroes at the beginning of a journey, right before they accept a challenge and go on a wonderful adventure). Maybe we aren’t willing to give up on a dream in which we’ve invested a lot of effort. We all know this feeling of self-dismissal, and it looks something like this: Inner Feeling: I’ve been tense all week. This feels…
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Leaning Into A Mood Can Improve Your Leadership

Leaning Into A Mood Can Improve Your Leadership

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What mood do leaders need to lean into to get the results we want? I've been thinking about this question lately, after a great family summer trip that involved several different tours—and tour guides. We were a group that ranged widely in age, from children to more elderly family members, so we weren't always easy to please. After a day’s activities, we visitors would talk about our tour leaders—the good, the bad, and the just okay. Who inspired us, and who left us cold? Like tour guides, leaders at work are challenged to inspire and create an environment of learning and growth among a group of people with differing styles and personalities. One thing that was clear about our preferred tour guides was that the mood we sensed from them really set the tone…
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Say Hello To Your Inner Critic

Say Hello To Your Inner Critic

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I work with many highly-talented, high-performing executives with proven track records of success. Inside, however, they don’t always feel secure. The inner critic is something most of us carry around. It’s that voice that nags you, saying you’re not good enough, you’re going to be judged, and you should probably just keep quiet right now. I am getting to know my inner critic pretty well. Just writing this post raises the feeling that people will think I'm being a know-it-all. Who am I to give advice, anyway? Sometimes it feels like my inner critic isn't just one voice, but a full-sized marching band. So I can relate to my clients, who have accomplished a lot, and yet hear the inner critic whenever they try something new. Sometimes the way we react to the…
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Four Ways Gratitude Can Help You Do Your Job

Four Ways Gratitude Can Help You Do Your Job

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Psychologists have recently paid more attention to the role of gratitude in improving physical and mental health. Gratitude is also a topic of interest in the workplace, as a way to motivate employees and build first-rate teams. While you can’t fix all your problems with positive thinking, research indicates that putting effort into feeling thankful—and, when appropriate, expressing gratitude to others--can be beneficial for health and relationships. 1. Being thankful is associated with a healthier heart and other health benefits. “We found that more gratitude in these patients was associated with better mood, better sleep, less fatigue and lower levels of inflammatory biomarkers,” says the lead author of this study. 2. Thankfulness can help you and your colleagues cope with difficulty. There is scientific evidence that people who feel gratitude can enhance well-being in…
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3 Great Leadership Books For Summer Reading

3 Great Leadership Books For Summer Reading

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These three leadership reads offer great insights while also being brisk and entertaining—perfect for the beach or campsite. Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time by Susan Scott Executive and leadership coach Susan Scott asserts that relationships are built on having the right conversations. Through the stories, tools and worksheets in this book she outlines how to have the “fierce” conversations of her title. Wall Street Journal bestseller. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith with Mark Reiter Executive coach Marshall Goldsmith tackles the interpersonal issues that even successful executives face, focusing on the top 20 bad habits that can undermine relationships in business and in families, with practical advice on how to…
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