Bringing Leadership To Family During Pandemic

Bringing Leadership To Family During Pandemic

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At work, leaders feel a responsibility to inspire, support, and align their teams. If yours is one of many families spending lots of time at home together during the pandemic, you may find yourself needing those same leadership skills in your family relationships. If we tend to be in a CEO role at home, we may be noticing some connections between this leadership role and the one we have at work. Are there lessons we can carry between one role and another? How are you helping to lead in terms of empathy, inclusion, support and inspiration within your family?  I’d like to share a couple of the most helpful actions we have been taking at my house (I have a spouse and 3 kids) to support one another during this…
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Six Actions Working for Leaders Right Now

Six Actions Working for Leaders Right Now

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With a pandemic at hand, plenty of things have gone wrong. But as I work with my clients, I also notice some things that are going right as leaders work to strengthen their organizations. Leaders are taking actions and initiating changes that will improve their businesses, not just during difficult circumstances, but into the post-pandemic future. Here are six amazing, effective actions leaders are taking right now:  Building Closer Connections: Leaders are maintaining and enhancing connections in the workplace at a time when most people are working remotely, and usually alone. Online meetings and phone calls contain more immediate, in-the moment conversations about feelings, priorities, and actions, which helps employees feel connected, often more so than before the pandemic hit. Discussions about what is happening for people right now, today, are…
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What Meaning Can We Make Today?

What Meaning Can We Make Today?

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Over the last couple of weeks, many of the conversations I’ve been having with clients have led us to an important topic: the ways we are struggling to make meaning today, knowing that our future is no longer something that is promised.  Of course, the future never is promised, but we all had plans for next year, this summer, and even next week, that we are no longer sure we'll be able to carry out. Just planning for tomorrow feels like a challenge. As it turns out, a lot of the meaning we make of our lives happens when we set our wonderful goals and work on fulfilling them over time. How do we make meaning in our lives, when we aren’t sure what tomorrow will bring?  It’s a time…
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Three Things That Can Block Our Empathy

Three Things That Can Block Our Empathy

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Most of us would like for others to understand, recognize, and share in our feelings, and it can be demoralizing, lonely and painful to experience another person’s lack of empathy. In business, this can affect employees, and can also lead to a poor understanding about what customers might need or want.  So how do we get closer to the empathy that makes the world an easier place, and helps our businesses work more smoothly inside and out?  For a start, we can look at what blocks the natural empathy inside us.  Lack of empathy can be the result of exhaustion, distraction, or stress. But a few common roadblocks to empathy trip people up even when they are feeling great. I have found that paying attention to such roadblocks has helped…
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Tolerating discomfort is a leadership trait.

Tolerating discomfort is a leadership trait.

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It can feel like a paradox: the times when we grow the most and feel happiest often require that we experience discomfort. When I think about moments of greatest growth for leaders and teams I work with, or for myself, they almost always occur after we move through something and/or have an experience that’s hard, challenging, or uncomfortable. An easy analogy is to consider what exercise does for us. We may drag our feet on going to the gym, getting out on a run, or taking a yoga class, and when we start, we might or likely to feel the discomfort of stiff joints and lazy muscles. We get out there despite this initial rough patch because we know that as we move through that we'll find a greater feeling…
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A New Workbook for Leading With Self-Knowledge

A New Workbook for Leading With Self-Knowledge

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As I wrote in the introduction to my first leadership book, "How Do You Want to Show Up? Find Your Inner Truths--and Lead with Them", I have been curious from an early age about what makes a great leader. What I've learned is that effective leadership is more than an attitude or a natural ability. It's a vocation that requires real intention, the strength to look inward and know oneself, and the willingness to show up with that knowledge as a leader. My second book, the new How Do You Want to Show Up? Workbook, contains over 200 pages of my favorite coaching questions, prompts, tips and tools that have effectively helped leaders find their internal values and beliefs and bring them to the workplace--and the rest of life. Workbook…
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The Power of Authentic Conversations

The Power of Authentic Conversations

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Engaging in authentic conversations allows people to feel most alive and real, and leads to high morale. We need real conversations in order to provide clarity and move discussions, decisions, business outcomes and performance forward.Yet, despite the power of authenticity, it can be surprisingly hard to achieve this at work. Our identity and/or our relationships with others can feel at stake if we take a position and say what we think, feel or want.What do you see when you consider your work self? Are you a far different person at work than you are outside of it? Also step back and observe team meetings. How much are team members holding back? Do individuals seem to be sharing all of their thoughts, positions and ideas? Is the team able to debate…
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For a Successful Team, Pay Attention to Group Norms

For a Successful Team, Pay Attention to Group Norms

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There can be great wisdom in a team. In fact, groups are often able to make better decisions than any single individual. But there’s a caveat: only emotional intelligent teams can be this effective. Most of us, at some point, have encountered the other kind of team or group—the type that makes a person want to work alone. When a team is dysfunctional, decision-making, quality, and speed suffer. So it’s an urgent matter to figure out how to create a high performing team, and there’s no magic formula. There is, however, one important area leaders can focus on that, with effort and attention, will always improve a team: group norms. Everyone in a group contributes to its overall emotional intelligence level, but the norms strongly determine whether the team is high-performing, or simply a…
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Why Context Can Make Or Break Your Work Life

Why Context Can Make Or Break Your Work Life

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Are you thriving at work?Often, I hear leaders in work situations where they feel unhappy, don’t feel like themselves, and are convinced that the problem must be about them. They take responsibility, thinking that if they could just figure out how to work better with this one colleague, or fit in better with a team, or if they could just work harder or in a different way, they could make it work.While it's great to own up to your challenges, you can't always fix a work problem by putting your shoulder to the wheel. In fact, I have frequently found that leaders can gain in happiness and energy by making sure they are working in the right context based on their own style, values, and other attributes. Like a sun-loving…
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Learning a Kinder Leadership Style

Learning a Kinder Leadership Style

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If you’ve ever watched the hit Netflix food and travel program Salt Fat Acid Heat, you’ve observed the friendly, bubbly personality of its star, chef Samin Nosrat.She’s known for her warm, upbeat style. In an article for the food magazine Bon Appetit, a writer who spent time with Samin concluded, “She really wants you to love her, and she has an uncanny, non-smarmy ability to get you to do just that.”Yet, like so many leaders, she didn't always lead with her innate warmth and charm. In fact, Nosrat said in a recent profile for Inc. Magazine that in her first high pressure management job in a kitchen ten years ago, when she was 25, she took on a much different personality in an attempt to lead without any leadership training. When…
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