What do you really believe? What do you truly want? What are you here to do?

Many of us start our careers with satisfying answers to these questions but stray off course. We stop finding time to revisit our goals. We stop asking the big questions. But no matter how talented we are, we can only work to our full abilities if we take the time to know ourselves. With more than twenty years of experience as an executive coach, Melissa Williams-Gurian has found that truly effective leaders share a key strength: the ability to realize their inner truths and use that knowledge to communicate more effectively. Through stories and lessons gathered from her decades of consulting work, Williams-Gurian reveals the strategies she uses to help leaders develop that strength and use it to achieve high performance in the workplace for themselves and their teams. Whether you’re a longtime leader, a rising star looking to develop your talents, or an employee struggling to communicate with your executives, How Do You Want to Show Up? will help you use your internal values and beliefs as a guide in the workplace—and in life.

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Praise for How Do You Want to Show Up?

A thoughtful and approachable book, How Do You Want to Show Up? addresses many of the foundational skill sets leaders require to be effective. The lessons around self-awareness, authenticity, accountability, presence, difficult conversations, and more are spot-on characteristics of the best leaders we know.

Michael Humphries

Melissa’s superb storytelling and incredible insight takes the reader on a powerful journey toward greater self-knowledge and what it means to be human. The wisdom infused throughout this book is relevant and hugely beneficial to any reader!

Suzi Skinner, MCC

This is a compelling book that furthers our understanding of our own internal barriers and how each of us can overcome them. Melissa’s vibrant storytelling ability keeps you turning the pages and deepens your self-awareness. She’s one of the best in the coaching business and will help you succeed.

Mark A. Finkelsteinformer general counsel and executive vice president of corporate development at Emeritus Corporation

After two decades of leading teams and organizations (and despite some skepticism on my part), Melissa helped me break through and become a more effective leader. It was a very difficult but enlightening journey.

Executive at a Fortune 50 company

Having had the opportunity to work directly with Melissa and experience positive results both personally and professionally, I know this book is a must-have for any professional looking to accelerate their career and impact their personal brand in a positive way.

Chief executive officer at a global wellness consulting company

I really appreciated your gentle nudging. It takes a lot of time to do this kind of thing and I have to admit it’s not one of my favorite parts of my job. I’m working on it and plan to incorporate it into my goal for this year to improve my leadership skill.

CFOBiomedical Company

A captivating book about understanding our internal barriers and how to unstick them. Melissa’s coaching helped me understand my own leadership challenges and how to overcome them. Her book, How Do You Want to Show Up?, is a great new resource for executives and their employees.

Sherri Mason

This must-read book teaches critical leadership skills through people stories that keep the pages turning. Readers can use this book to strengthen their self-knowledge and improve communication at work and in the rest of life.

Marshall Goldsmithinternational bestselling author and editor of thirty-five books, including What Got You Here Won’t Get You There and Triggers

Melissa is an incredibly insightful coach, able to hone in on opportunities for development needed to take your leadership to the next level.

Vice president of global customer experience at a multinational software corporation

As she teaches self-reflection, Melissa helps her clients become more intentional as leaders. This book—and her engaging stories of coaching—shows readers how to do the same.

Tom EnnisCEO at Amplify Snack Brands and SkinnyPop Popcorn

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